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Emotional Stability
by DW Green — February 25, 2026
“Emotional stability isn’t a “nice to have.” It’s foundational.”
We talk about skills, accuracy, punctuality, following instructions. These are the visible things—the behaviors we can measure and manage.
But beneath every behavior is a person.
And beneath every person is their emotional foundation.
WHAT IS EMOTIONAL STABILITY?
Emotional stability is the capacity to:
• Stay grounded when life gets turbulent
• Separate personal struggles from professional responsibilities
• Receive feedback without collapsing or resisting
• Respect authority even when it’s uncomfortable
• Show up—mentally and emotionally—not just physically
It’s not about being emotionless. It’s about being REGULATED.
Able to feel what you feel without letting it run the show.
WHEN THE FOUNDATION CRACKS
Life happens to everyone:
• Relationship troubles
• Family stress
• Financial pressure
• Health concerns
• Inner struggles we can’t name
When these things destabilize us, they don’t stay at home. They walk through the door with us. They show up as:
• Lateness (can’t get going in the morning)
• Poor accuracy (mind is elsewhere)
• Resistance to feedback (already feeling criticized everywhere)
• Conflict with authority (projecting personal struggles onto the boss)
• Inconsistency (good days and bad days with no pattern)
The behavior is the symptom. The instability is the source.
A MANAGER IS NOT A THERAPIST
Let’s be clear:
It’s not my job to fix someone’s emotional life.
It’s not my job to diagnose.
It’s not my job to excuse poor performance because of personal struggles.
I know this terrain. There have been times in my own life when I was emotionally unstable. Relationship stress. Business pressures. Inner struggles I couldn’t name. Not good, not bad—it just is what it is. Recognizing that in myself helps me recognize it in others.
BUT—
It IS my job to lead with clarity AND compassion.
To say:
“I see you struggling. AND the work still has to get done.”
To offer:
“If something’s going on, I’m willing to listen. But the standards don’t change.”
To hold both truths:
“I care about you as a person. AND I need you to do your job.”
THE CONVERSATION
When I suspect emotional instability is affecting performance, I consider:
1. NAME WHAT YOU SEE—BEHAVIORALLY.
“You’ve been late several times. Your accuracy has slipped. You’ve resisted your manager’s instructions.”
2. OPEN A DOOR—WITHOUT FORCING IT.
“Is there something going on that’s affecting your work? You don’t have to share details, but I want you to know I’m asking.”
3. HOLD THE STANDARD—WITH DIGNITY.
“Whatever is happening personally, the expectations here don’t change. We need accuracy. We need punctuality. We need you to follow your manager’s direction.”
4. OFFER A PATH FORWARD.
“If you need support—time, resources, a conversation—let’s figure that out together. But the work has to improve. That’s non-negotiable.”
RESPECT AND AUTHORITY
There’s something else here.
When an employee resists a manager—especially a manager who is kind, competent, and dedicated—something deeper may be at play.
It could be:
• Difficulty receiving feedback from anyone
• Difficulty respecting authority in general
• Difficulty receiving direction from THIS particular manager (and we have to ask why)
Emotional stability includes the ability to:
• Take instruction without ego
• Respect the role, even if you struggle with the person
• Show up professionally regardless of personal feelings
This isn’t optional.
This is part of the job.
This is belonging.
THE BOTTOM LINE
Emotional stability isn’t a “nice to have.” It’s foundational.
Without it:
• Skills falter
• Accuracy slips
• Relationships fray
• Teams suffer
• Belonging breaks
With it:
• Challenges become manageable
• Feedback becomes growth
• Authority becomes partnership
• Showing up becomes possible
We can’t control what happens in someone’s personal life.
But we CAN hold the standard.
AND hold the person.
That’s leadership.
That’s what I strive for every day.
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