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Recognizing What Matters

by DW Green — May 6, 2026

“The answer IS obvious. That is the whole problem.”

The things some people manage to be experts in: fantasy sports, celebrity trivia, derivatives and commodities markets, thirteenth-century hygiene habits of the clergy.

We can get very good at what we are paid to do, or adept at a hobby we wish we could be paid to do. Yet our own lives, habits, and tendencies remain a stranger to us. We know the rosters. We do not know the roster of our own attention.

At the end of your time on this planet, what expertise will be more valuable — your understanding of matters of living and dying, or your knowledge of the ‘87 Bears? Which will help your children more — your insight into happiness and meaning, or that you followed breaking political news every day for thirty years?

I asked these questions in 2024 with a slight edge in my voice. I want to ask them again now without it. And I want to admit something I did not see clearly the first time: the questions themselves are too clean. They sound like the answer is obvious and the only mystery is why we keep choosing wrong.

The answer IS obvious. That is the whole problem.

The bigger picture is not hidden because it is far away. It is hidden because it is close, and the mind has wandered off. We are not refusing to look. We are absent. The mind is doing what minds do, which is rove — through the rosters, the headlines, the quarterback stats, the market ticks, the running commentary on everything that is not the life we are actually living. And while the mind is roving, the life is happening unattended. The veil stays because the one who could lift it has stepped out of the room.

This is what I missed in 2024. I framed the work as becoming an expert in what matters, as if happiness and meaning were another field of study, like commodities or canon law, and I just needed to put the hours in.

That is not how it works. That is not how any of this works.

You do not become an expert in what matters. You come back to it.

What matters has been here the whole time. The breath. The body. The people in the room. The light coming through the window. The hand on your shoulder. The voice on the other end of the phone. None of it is hiding. None of it is on a shelf at the back of the library waiting to be discovered. The expertise we are reaching for in matters of living and dying is not knowledge to acquire. It is recognition that was always available — waiting for the wanderer to come home.

The glass was always clear. We just kept stepping away from the window.

I think of the Sesiels frank in Iowa. Generations of customers tasted the difference before anyone explained it to them. The snap of the casing. The seasoning that tasted like somebody’s grandfather stood over it. No one became an expert in what made it good. They were present to it. One bite. Done. The brand was lived, not explained.

I think of the Memorial Day sweet corn flown from Phoenix to Fairbanks in 1988, igloo containers with the Alaska Airlines stickers still on them. For many Fairbanksians it was the first time they had tasted real sweet corn — sugar converts to starch swiftly after picking, and most of what they had eaten before was the starchy version, technically the thing but not really the thing. One bite and the whole town knew. Nobody had to study. Nobody had to put in ten thousand hours. The corn arrived, and the people were there to meet it.

That is the whole teaching. The corn arrived, and the people were there to meet it.

This is what expertise in what matters actually looks like. It is not a credential. It is a tongue that has not been talked out of what it tastes. It is a person who is in the room when the moment arrives.

The trouble is that most of us are not in the room. Not because we have refused to be there — most of us would say we want to be there — but because the mind has carried us elsewhere and forgotten to bring us back. We have been told that the important things are complicated, that life is a problem to be solved, that meaning is somewhere up ahead if we read the right book or listen to the right podcast or follow the right account. So the wandering feels productive. It feels like progress. And meanwhile the breath is right here. The person across the kitchen is right here. The grandchild on the floor is right here. The afternoon light is right here, and it is not asking us to study it. It is asking us to come back.

A man can recite a quarterback’s stats and not know what his own wife is afraid of. A woman can track every tick of the market and not know what her own son is hoping for. We can become connoisseurs of everything except the lives we are actually living.

The work, then, is not to become anything. The work is to come back. Again. And again. And again. The mind will wander. That is what it does. The recognition is not in stopping the wandering. The recognition is in noticing we have wandered, and turning toward the room.

T.S. Eliot said it: we will arrive where we started and know the place for the first time. That is recognition. The place was always the place. We were the ones who left.

So I would change the title of the 2024 essay if I could. I would call it Recognizing What Matters. Because nothing has to be built. Nothing has to be earned. The wings are already folded inside. The only question is whether we are home when they unfold.

Stay present. Stay soft. Stay upright. Keep showing up to the game even when the stadium is not yours.

What matters has been here the whole time. The work is only to come back to the