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Say NO To Resistance

by DW Green — December 21, 2016

See things as they are.

As the Seventh Dalai Lama wrote: “All things found in the world and beyond are illusions created by one’s own concepts. Grasping at them but further distorts perception. Give up grasping and see things as they are.”

Like the daily practice of meditation – the process of lessening our resistance includes surrendering, accepting, detaching, and then trusting that this moment is THE moment – bringing our awareness to the fluidity and evolutionary nature of life.

The English word resist comes from the Latin word resistere, which means to stand against or oppose. When we oppose what is flowing into us, we are saying NO to the Universe. We are denying our most divine nature. We are inserting our ego into the moment instead of allowing the divine to flow through us.

When we resist, we suddenly put an end to infinite possibilities. There are many lessons (and growing pains) along the journey of our life, which may contribute to the underlying challenge that makes us reluctant to trust and welcome the unknown. But we can shift that non-nourishing mindset very easily and quickly by beginning the process of ALLOWING ourselves to receive what’s being offered to us right now.

This doesn’t mean you should have no boundaries in your life or that you say YES to every request that comes your way. That doesn’t serve anyone – especially yourself. What it truly means is that you are open to listen… open to receive whatever comes your way… and THEN YOU GET TO DECIDE how you will respond.

You may, in fact, respond to many situations that come into your world with a BIG FAT “NO!” or a “HELL YES!” or simply a “YES, but…”, and even a “NO, but…” And now you have four very different response scenarios, which will lead you in four very different directions with an infinite number of outcomes that can then unfold. When you resist, there is only one outcome that you are carving into the moment. And then the battle begins. We think it is a battle between us and the other person but in reality, it’s a battle between us and the Universe. Simply by opening yourself to four outcomes rather than one, life expands, new possibilities arise, and your choices become liberating as fear and constriction drift away.